Divorce is, even in the best of circumstances, a complicated matter. Spouses have to discuss many personal aspects of their lives before attorneys and judges. Most divorces include some form of a grief process. Even in relatively amicable divorces, the loss of a marriage you thought would last forever can weigh heavily on the entire experience.
The good news is that your divorce doesn't have to be spiteful, even if it is sad. Each couple responds differently to divorce. Some accept that they are simply not the same people they both married, and ending the marriage is the best option. Other divorces feel like surviving a car accident over and over again. It can be very difficult to separate the legal aspects of divorce from the emotional ones.
When the divorce remains overly emotional for the duration of the process, it can lead to one spouse or the other making irrational decisions that don't help either party move on in a healthy manner. Some spouses choose to obstruct the divorce process to punish the other party. This is rarely a wise choice.
An experienced divorce attorney is an essential tool to help keep your divorce civil. Proper legal counsel can help you understand all of the issues at stake, from asset and liability division to alimony to child support and custody. None of these things are simple. However, with professional legal guidance, you can find the space to deal with the emotional parts of your divorce while keeping your priorities in focus as you work towards a fresh start and a new life.
Source: The Intelligencer, "The modern divorce – amicable or acrimonious?," Debra Wallace, Sep. 02, 2017